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Learn How to “Date” Your Donor (Instead of Proposing Too Soon Like a Weirdo)

Feb 19, 2025 | Nonprofit Marketing

By Jamie Jacobs

In non-profit fundraising and marketing, it’s crucial to build confidence and connection with your potential donors before asking for significant contributions or monthly sponsorships. Rushing into a donation request can overwhelm supporters and harm long-term engagement. Instead, your organization should gradually nurture those key relationships. Here’s how:

  1. Make a Strong First Impression
  2. Acknowledge Their Interest
  3. Introduce the Ask – and It Better Be Small
  4. Build Momentum
  5. Then Pop the Question!

Make a Strong First Impression

Your donor’s journey starts with awareness. Whether through an event, social media, or word-of-mouth, ensure your messaging is clear, compelling, and emotionally resonant. Share success stories from those you’ve served and/or provide informative content that draws potential supporters into your mission. Main goal here: establish trust and intrigue.

Acknowledge Their Interest

Show appreciation for any steps a donor takes toward you, whether they attended an event, signed up for your newsletter or followed your social media. A simple thank-you note or immediate, personalized message makes them feel valued and reinforces their connection to your organization. This lays the goodwill groundwork for future asks.

Introduce the Ask – and It Better Be Small

Rather than asking for a large donation right away, start with small, non-financial requests, such as sharing social content. This introduces the concept of supporting your nonprofit without pressure and without money (at first). Over time gently introduce the idea of giving a small financial gift here and there.

Build Momentum

After a donor’s first gift (or first series of small gifts), keep them engaged with regular updates on how their contribution is making an impact. Use stories, testimonials, and ongoing holiday wishes from your organization’s leaders to help them understand how your organization is making a difference — and just as importantly, the role donors play in it.

Then Pop the Question!

As your donor becomes more invested, ask “Will you be a monthly donor?”, involving them in the future of your nonprofit in a more committed way. Introduce the “circle,” “society,” “partnership,” whatever name you give that special group of generous donors who support your cause regularly. Do all you can to continue telling those dedicated monthly givers (and of course, givers of large one-time gifts) how critical they are to the future sustainability of your organization’s mission.

Sources: The Fundraising Authority, Network for Good, Bloomerang, Charity Navigator